Avem maxim 5 prieteni adevărați, da?

Foarte interesant articolul ăsta despre prietenie, și faptul că dintre cei pe care noi îi considerăm prieteni adevărați, doar jumătate simt la fel despre noi. Te aduce puțin cu picioarele pe pământ.

… friends are people you take the time to understand and allow to understand you.

Because time is limited, so, too, is the number of friends you can have… He describes layers of friendship, where the topmost layer consists of only one or two people, say a spouse and best friend with whom you are most intimate and interact daily.
The next layer can accommodate at most four people for whom you have great affinity, affection and concern and who require weekly attention to maintain. Out from there, the tiers contain more casual friends with whom you invest less time and tend to have a less profound and more tenuous connection. Without consistent contact, they easily fall into the realm of acquaintance. You may be friendly with them but they aren’t friends.

There is a limited amount of time and emotional capital we can distribute, so we only have five slots for the most intense type of relationship.

Asta reconfirmă ce scriam și eu mai demult, că de regulă ai maxim 5 prieteni adevărați, și ei te influențează atât pe plan personal și profesional. Practic nu ai timp fizic pentru a păstra pe termen lung mai multe prieteni, deoarece relațiile trebuie întreținute.

Și mai era și asta, despre cum să îți faci prieteni noi ca adult:

For friendships to form, you need consistency, says Nelson. „When we’re kids, this is automatic,” says Nelson. „You go to school, summer camp and play outside with the other kids in the neighborhood until dinner is ready. As adults, we rarely have that kind of consistency outside of work.”

Start small. Invite work friends out for lunch, happy hour or over to watch the game. „The idea is to practice doing other stuff together, and glue more pieces of your lives to each other,” she says. „It can take six to eight experiences with someone before you feel like you made a friend.”

Facebook a schimbat mult conceptul de prieten, uneori avem impresia că dacă suntem populari pe Facebook înseamnă că avem mulți prieteni și în viața reală, ceea ce este greșit.